Gal Pal Email 17th Edition

Gal Pal Email 17th Edition

Quote of the Week:"Just because you chose what is RIGHT to do, does not mean that you will be treated as a hero."-Spiderman

Ebonics Lesson:
"I see u"My students say this to me like every day now... I see u miss patty...I am just letting u all know it is like saying hello or some other form of greeting.

Lesson Learned:
Saying you are sorry versus repentance (and you don't have to be religious to practice this.) Sometimes you may wonder why you say you are sorry for something yet the situation may not have changed at all. A fine example is my roommate situation. You say you are sorry for not taking out the trash, yet the trash still heaps up in the house or outside the door until someone else finds themselves doing your job. And then that person takes an "L" and falls backwards down the stairs. If u are simply sorry, u apologize, but someone who is repentant will up the anty and start doing what they are suppose to do and simply take out the trash. Sometimes doing the right thing is hard, but who wants something that is easy. Easy does not build character or stamina so when the real woes of life come to u, u are not the one falling flat on your face. And then there is no one but yourself to get u up, but u lack the skills to do that. So say your sorry and mean it, with a determination to change a little each time for the better.

Mama's Corner:
Remembering that your parents can be fragile too is heartbreaking. When I found out this week that my mother had to have major surgery, it reminded me when I was four. When I was four, my sister snuck me in under a trench coat to the room in the hospital that kept my mother. I remember all the tubes and monitors hooked up to her body. She could not even look at me. She was heavily medicated and sedated. My sister told me that all those things would make her feel better and soon she would be home to take care of me. Part of me wanted to believe her; the other part was filled with the absolute fear that she would leave me too soon. I was too afraid to touch her, almost that I had even lost her already. My sister made me touch my mother's hand and I cried.
At that time I cried for me, because I was afraid that my mother was leaving me. Not over the loss of life. I remember going home to my house. My Uncle Fonny stayed with us and he bought me one of my first teddy bears to hopefully make me stop crying. It read, "I love u" on its belly. I was not loudly crying, just somewhere there was a reservoir of tears coming from some place. So back to the present. I went to visit my mom the day I found out that this was going to happen. I went into our house, it was completely dark, and I thought was my mom in bed? I went up to her room calling her name. I got to her room and there in the darkness I saw her body limp with sleep and I felt like that little four year old girl afraid she was going to lose her mother. I shook my head and yelled at her to wake up. She was like who is it?! And I am proud to say that she got up and hobbled down the stairs to entertain me, Alex and Nessa with stories of how to dance on bars in a bar and offered us some donuts. My mother, the hostess. I say this so that all of you will take the time to love your mother, and show her that, even when it's not Mother's day...because good or bad parenting...she deserves it all the time.
New York Times Best Seller: "I know just what you mean; the power of friendship in women's lives"
This is one of the better books I have picked up on friendship so for the next couple of Gal Pals, so you wont have to pick up another book to read for the summer or fall, I got all of you by helping you all sorta read a book with me, without you all having to read it all like me.
The Story begins, well at the beginning. The best and simple thing about life long friends is that there is this seamlessness that begins to happen over time. These two women commence their story about how they met and such, but I thank the benefit to us is to take the time to reminisce and value the girlfriends we have and why we value them, and then to tell them. College years and then what we decide to do there after are the tell- tell times of friendships. The ones that insist past the few years past college will be forever. And as an "elder" of this email, I can attest the ladies that I met when I was a freshman year can last forever.
Thanks to ladies like Adina, Melodie, Rachel, Diane and Traice, these girls will be a part of my life forever. When we get together, it is like no time has really past. And though sometimes we forget the details, we always remember the headliners. And with age, the bonds are even tighter. You see ladies no one like your gal pals will understand your mood swings, your passions, or secrets like the company of such companions. And it is because of the love of this first circle of women, that I can be the kind of friend that I am now to many of you. They are and continue to be my biggest cheerleaders and inspirations.
Have a great week and let me know if you ever need an ear to listen.

My love always,Patty Jr
The Diva

Next time look for Nessa as guest writer... :)