Gal Pal Post volume 4 edition 3

Gal Pal Post Volume 4 Edition 3
Quips and Quotes
Inner Diva Speak
Last Word


“you can tell the character of a person by the type of friends they keep…”

Inner Diva Speak

or by the kind of friends they don’t keep. Last time we talked about relationships with a significant other, but this week, it is all about the deal with people in our lives and that which is between friends. Gal pal (and mentor) Lesley Deaderick/Jenkins taught me an amazing lesson the year of 2001. Besides offering me her wonderful friendship, she gave the greater gift, her wisdom. Something that she had learned in her journey in life and shared this with me.When someone is in your life for a REASON it could be for a host of explanations; it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. On the other hand, that someone may be there to test you or to bless you. If they are there to test you then this may lead to you either growing or regressing. But in this you still have a choice.Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. On the other hand, these persons may bring you nothing but hardship and pain. They may deceive you or manipulate you. It is then your decision to rise about the occasion and figure out the role they played in your life.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. A nperson at this level is music for your soul. These people are the iron that sharpens iron. They are the people/friends/mentors inyour life that add to your life, they do not take it away from it. Life is not about what you get, it is about what you give. So when you are sowing relationships of any kind, be mindful that you are putting into them more than what you expect to get out. When you do good by others, I promise not only will good find you, but you will feel good. And once you retrain your minds to rise above situations and get over the fact that life is not fair and things will not always work out in your favor, your hope should be that you learn from every test. After all, life is a test and a trust. Who we are under persecution of the pressures of life is what sifts and refines us to reveal who we really are. And there you will find your life purpose.

Last Word:
In honor of the national holiday about giving thanks, I had to discuss it. If you do not appreciate the people who love you and care about you and express this in manner that they know you do appreciate them then you will probably wear out your welcome and they may move on to another person or focus their energy on folks whom share mutual love and respect for said persons. If you do not appreciate what you have then why do you feel that you deserve more? In life we really don’t deserve anything. Service should be our rent for merely living. Each day we breathe is one to be thankful for. If you got up to read this email, you should be thankful that you can see. Etc.
Be a good steward of what you have (possessions, gifts, talents, but more importantly relationships/friendships). I am very thankful for every one of you. I apologize if for any reason that\r\nyou do not feel as if I demonstrate this in a way that blesses you. I hope that all of you realize that you have added to my life, and for\r\nthat very fact, I am thankful.

Keep it classy Ladies!

PS: for those of you know who knew our vice president of student affairs, Bill Hall passed away 11-27 at his residence surrounded by family.He was the greatest man I ever knew and has played a huge role in helping me be the person that I am today. I know that parts of his legacy lives on in me and in the hearts of others because he loved and invested in our lives.

The Porcelain Bowl Volume 4 Edition 2

The porcelain bowl
Volume 4 Edition 2
What’s Love Got to Do With It?
I.Quips and Quotes
II. Catch 22
III. Things you wished you asked but never have…

Quips and Quotes
“Loves in need of love today” Stevie Wonder

Catch 22

Post sweetest day I have had some thoughts. Thoughts on how things get manipulated and get changed about love and what goes on with humanity as we perceive and engage infatuation. The point remains where do we get the idea to be pumped out about infatuation?Origins and Facts About Sweetest Day Observed the 3rd Saturday in the month of October, Sweetest Day observance originated in Cleveland in 1922. Herbert Birch Kingston, a philanthropist and candy company employee wanted to bring happiness into the lives of orphans, shut-ins and others who were forgotten. With the help of friends, he began to distribute candy and small gifts to the underprivileged.On the first Sweetest Day, movie star Ann Pennington presented 2,200 Cleveland newspaper boys with boxes of candy to express gratitude for their service to the public. Another popular movie star, Theda Bara, distributed 10,000 boxes of candy to people in Cleveland hospitals and also gave candy to all who came to watch her film in a local theater. Primarily a regional observance celebrated in the Great Lakes region and the Northeast, Sweetest Day is gradually spreading to other areas of the country. People tend to take the Sweetest Day tradition with them when they move. Ohio is the top state for Sweetest Day sales, followed by Michigan and Illinois. Texas, California and Florida are among the top 10 states in sales.
\r\nOver the years, Sweetest Day has evolved into a time to express romantic love and also to show appreciation to friends.\r\nNow, here is my thing, why has this transformed into this hallmark holiday that sometimes leaves many women feeling unworthy or unwanted. Things are never as they seem to be. Bump that! Love is more complex then how we use it. I love chicken. I love my mama. Does that mean I love them the same? The language about love is so diluted in America that we don\'t even know what we are talking about or loving about. So let’s talk about it. Is it Infatuation, Romantic Love, or Chemistry? Chemistry and Infatuation in Romantic Love and Marriage: Romantic love is blinded by infatuation or chemistry. It ends when anticipations become expectations. Chemistry fuels romantic love and infatuation with actual chemicals in our brains. Infatuation is a chemical high! Is your true love a Lust Junkie? Lust junkies are addicted to the chemistry of love. As love\'s chemicals wane, love junkies leave relationship of search of chemical lust "highs." \r\n According to Dr. Helen Fisher from Rutgers University, when you are infatuated with someone the chemical stimulant Dopamine, this is what causes you to be excited. This chemical also cranks up the production of testosterone. At this point you are also producing more norepinephrine, which is a neurotransmitter that further stimulates your sex drive and is also associated with increased memory. That is why you have the ability to recall all the intimate details, your brain is allowing you the ability to cherish such moments. However the downfall of the production of norepinephrine is that it hampers your ability to focus on other important things in your life and this is why some people never figure out how to practice balance (this mostly happens to women for reasons I have not found out yet). \r\n The effects of dopamine is that sometimes you become addicted to your significant other like they were a drug. This also means that when you begin to not get what you want, you become depressed and passive-aggressive. Serotonin, which keeps us calm and happy drops 40 percent in production when we are in that infatuation stage. This is why so many women will spend hours over analyzing what a man meant in the tone he said good-bye. The phase of romantic love lasts 6-18 months. So when the glossiness of such relationships chisel off, and you want to reconnect with people, don\'t get mad when you realize that you had burnt some bridges. When you stop getting phone calls or invites; when the balance is totally off; when you trade off friendships for this new relationship, and your friends wonder what happened to you; Love is an addition to your life, it should never be subtracting.",1]
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Over the years, Sweetest Day has evolved into a time to express romantic love and also to show appreciation to friends.Now, here is my thing, why has this transformed into this hallmark holiday that sometimes leaves many women feeling unworthy or unwanted. Things are never as they seem to be. Bump that! Love is more complex then how we use it. I love chicken. I love my mama. Does that mean I love them the same? The language about love is so diluted in America that we don't even know what we are talking about or loving about. So let’s talk about it. Is it Infatuation, Romantic Love, or Chemistry? Chemistry and Infatuation in Romantic Love and Marriage: Romantic love is blinded by infatuation or chemistry. It ends when anticipations become expectations. Chemistry fuels romantic love and infatuation with actual chemicals in our brains. Infatuation is a chemical high! Is your true love a Lust Junkie? Lust junkies are addicted to the chemistry of love. As love's chemicals wane, love junkies leave relationship of search of chemical lust "highs." According to Dr. Helen Fisher from Rutgers University, when you are infatuated with someone the chemical stimulant Dopamine, this is what causes you to be excited. This chemical also cranks up the production of testosterone. At this point you are also producing more norepinephrine, which is a neurotransmitter that further stimulates your sex drive and is also associated with increased memory. That is why you have the ability to recall all the intimate details, your brain is allowing you the ability to cherish such moments. However the downfall of the production of norepinephrine is that it hampers your ability to focus on other important things in your life and this is why some people never figure out how to practice balance (this mostly happens to women for reasons I have not found out yet). The effects of dopamine is that sometimes you become addicted to your significant other like they were a drug. This also means that when you begin to not get what you want, you become depressed and passive-aggressive. Serotonin, which keeps us calm and happy drops 40 percent in production when we are in that infatuation stage. This is why so many women will spend hours over analyzing what a man meant in the tone he said good-bye. The phase of romantic love lasts 6-18 months. So when the glossiness of such relationships chisel off, and you want to reconnect with people, don't get mad when you realize that you had burnt some bridges. When you stop getting phone calls or invites; when the balance is totally off; when you trade off friendships for this new relationship, and your friends wonder what happened to you; Love is an addition to your life, it should never be subtracting.
\r\n Love is more than emotions. Love is about mutual respect and devotion. It is sacrifice and hard work. It is commitment and service. The myth of love is easy. Infatuation and feelings are easy because your body reacts without much cognitive use. Love is the conscious and logical decision to move past the superficial intimacy and connecting on the metacognitive/spiritual dimension of humanity. It is saying that, here I am with all my flaws, failures and insecurities and your partner can forgive and embrace all of who you were and currently are. And then your partner is willing to be with you still and open themselves up just as honest and raw.\r\n This is not a crash course of six weeks. Love takes time and it is a process. Infatuation does not take time. That is why our divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a life of commitment and not knowing anything about ourselves and the potential candidate makes the union that much more difficult. Even with college, most people don\'t reach autonomy even by the age of 26. (These studies support why not taking care of personal development comes back in the form of a mid life crisis.)\r\n Again, emotions are easy to run to but most people invest in emotions and never learn to deal with love and this is why divorce occurs so often. Sex and emotions are not enough to sustain a relationship. Sadly, the generation before us hasn\'t taught, modeled, or documented how to do this well. And because of our consumer society, most folks don\'t want to take the time to care. In fact, many of you did not make it to the end of this monologue.\r\nThings you wished you knew but never asked:\r\n Do our ears continue to grow as we get older?\r\nSorry fellas but it is true. This along with noses. It is due to the cartilage growing. ah, the golden years!\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n",0]
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Love is more than emotions. Love is about mutual respect and devotion. It is sacrifice and hard work. It is commitment and service. The myth of love is easy. Infatuation and feelings are easy because your body reacts without much cognitive use. Love is the conscious and logical decision to move past the superficial intimacy and connecting on the metacognitive/spiritual dimension of humanity. It is saying that, here I am with all my flaws, failures and insecurities and your partner can forgive and embrace all of who you were and currently are. And then your partner is willing to be with you still and open themselves up just as honest and raw. This is not a crash course of six weeks. Love takes time and it is a process. Infatuation does not take time. That is why our divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a life of commitment and not knowing anything about ourselves and the potential candidate makes the union that much more difficult. Even with college, most people don't reach autonomy even by the age of 26. (These studies support why not taking care of personal development comes back in the form of a mid life crisis.) Again, emotions are easy to run to but most people invest in emotions and never learn to deal with love and this is why divorce occurs so often. Sex and emotions are not enough to sustain a relationship. Sadly, the generation before us hasn't taught, modeled, or documented how to do this well. And because of our consumer society, most folks don't want to take the time to care. In fact, many of you did not make it to the end of this monologue.Things you wished you knew but never asked: Do our ears continue to grow as we get older?Sorry fellas but it is true. This along with noses. It is due to the cartilage growing. ah, the golden years!

Gal Pal Post Volume 4 Edition 2

Gal Pal Post Volume 4 Edition 2What’s Love Got to Do With It?
I.Quips and Quotes
II. Inner Diva Thoughts
III. Things you wished you asked but never have…
Quips and Quotes
“Loves in need of love today”
Stevie Wonder

Inner Diva Thoughts
Post sweetest day I have had some thoughts. Thoughts on how things get manipulated and get changed about love and what goes on with humanity as we perceive and engage infatuation. The point remains where do we get the idea to be pumped out about infatuation?Origins and Facts About Sweetest Day Observed the 3rd Saturday in the month of October, Sweetest Day observance originated in Cleveland in 1922. Herbert Birch Kingston, a philanthropist and candy company employee wanted to bring happiness into the lives of orphans, shut-ins and others who were forgotten. With the help of friends, he began to distribute candy and small gifts to the underprivileged.On the first Sweetest Day, movie star Ann Pennington presented 2,200 Cleveland newspaper boys with boxes of candy to express gratitude for their service to the public. Another popular movie star, Theda Bara, distributed 10,000 boxes of candy to people in Cleveland hospitals and also gave candy to all who came to watch her film in a local theater. Primarily a regional observance celebrated in the Great Lakes region and the Northeast, Sweetest Day is gradually spreading to other areas of the country. People tend to take the Sweetest Day tradition with them when they move. Ohio is the top state for Sweetest Day sales, followed by Michigan and Illinois. Texas, California and Florida are among the top 10 states in sales.
\r\nOver the years, Sweetest Day has evolved into a time to express romantic love and also to show appreciation to friends.\r\nNow, here is my thing, why has this transformed into this hallmark holiday that sometimes leaves many women feeling unworthy or unwanted. Bump that! Love is more complex then how we use it. I love chicken. I love my mama. Does that mean I love them the same? The language about love is so diluted in America that we don’t even know what we are talking about or loving about. So let’s talk about it. Is it Infatuation, Romantic Love, or Chemistry? Chemistry and Infatuation in Romantic Love and Marriage: Romantic love is blinded by infatuation or chemistry. It ends when anticipations become expectations. Chemistry fuels romantic love and infatuation with actual chemicals in our brains. Infatuation is a chemical high! Is your true love a Lust Junkie? Lust junkies are addicted to the chemistry of love. As love\'s chemicals wane, love junkies leave relationship of search of chemical lust "highs." \r\n According to Dr. Helen Fisher from Rutgers University, when you are infatuated with someone the chemical stimulant Dopamine, this is what causes you to be excited. This chemical also cranks up the production of testosterone. At this point you are also producing more norepinephrine, which is a neurotransmitter that further stimulates your sex drive and is also associated with increased memory. That is why you have the ability to recall all the intimate details, your brain is allowing you the ability to cherish such moments. However the downfall of the production of norepinephrine is that it hampers your ability to focus on other important things in your life and this is why some people never figure out how to practice balance (this mostly happens to women for reasons I have not found out yet). \r\n The effects of dopamine is that sometimes you become addicted to your significant other like they were a drug. This also means that when you begin to not get what you want, you become depressed and passive-aggressive. Serotonin, which keeps us calm and happy drops 40 percent in production when we are in that infatuation stage. This is why so many women will spend hours over analyzing what a man meant in the tone he said good-bye. The phase of romantic love lasts 6-18 months. So when the glossiness of such relationships chisel off, and you want to reconnect with people, don\'t get mad when you realize that you had burnt some bridges. When you stop getting phone calls or invites; when the balance is totally off; when you trade off friendships for this new relationship, and your friends wonder what happened to you; Love is an addition to your life, it should never be subtracting.",1]
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Over the years, Sweetest Day has evolved into a time to express romantic love and also to show appreciation to friends.Now, here is my thing, why has this transformed into this hallmark holiday that sometimes leaves many women feeling unworthy or unwanted. Bump that! Love is more complex then how we use it. I love chicken. I love my mama. Does that mean I love them the same? The language about love is so diluted in America that we don’t even know what we are talking about or loving about. So let’s talk about it. Is it Infatuation, Romantic Love, or Chemistry? Chemistry and Infatuation in Romantic Love and Marriage: Romantic love is blinded by infatuation or chemistry. It ends when anticipations become expectations. Chemistry fuels romantic love and infatuation with actual chemicals in our brains. Infatuation is a chemical high! Is your true love a Lust Junkie? Lust junkies are addicted to the chemistry of love. As love's chemicals wane, love junkies leave relationship of search of chemical lust "highs." According to Dr. Helen Fisher from Rutgers University, when you are infatuated with someone the chemical stimulant Dopamine, this is what causes you to be excited. This chemical also cranks up the production of testosterone. At this point you are also producing more norepinephrine, which is a neurotransmitter that further stimulates your sex drive and is also associated with increased memory. That is why you have the ability to recall all the intimate details, your brain is allowing you the ability to cherish such moments. However the downfall of the production of norepinephrine is that it hampers your ability to focus on other important things in your life and this is why some people never figure out how to practice balance (this mostly happens to women for reasons I have not found out yet). The effects of dopamine is that sometimes you become addicted to your significant other like they were a drug. This also means that when you begin to not get what you want, you become depressed and passive-aggressive. Serotonin, which keeps us calm and happy drops 40 percent in production when we are in that infatuation stage. This is why so many women will spend hours over analyzing what a man meant in the tone he said good-bye. The phase of romantic love lasts 6-18 months. So when the glossiness of such relationships chisel off, and you want to reconnect with people, don't get mad when you realize that you had burnt some bridges. When you stop getting phone calls or invites; when the balance is totally off; when you trade off friendships for this new relationship, and your friends wonder what happened to you; Love is an addition to your life, it should never be subtracting.
\r\n Love is more than emotions. Love is about mutual respect and devotion. It is sacrifice and hard work. It is commitment and service. The myth of love is easy. Infatuation and feelings are easy because your body reacts without much cognitive use. Love is the conscious and logical decision to move past the superficial intimacy and connecting on the metacognitive/spiritual dimension of humanity. It is saying that, here I am with all my flaws, failures and insecurities and your partner can forgive and embrace all of who you were and currently are. And then your partner is willing to be with you still and open themselves up just as honest and raw.\r\n This is not a crash course of six weeks. Love takes time and it is a process. Infatuation does not take time. That is why our divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a life of commitment and not knowing anything about ourselves and the potential candidate makes the union that much more difficult. Even with college, most people don\'t reach autonomy even by the age of 26. (These studies support why not taking care of personal development comes back in the form of a mid life crisis.)\r\n Again, emotions are easy to run to but most people invest in emotions and never learn to deal with love and this is why divorce occurs so often. Sex and emotions are not enough to sustain a relationship. Sadly, the generation before us hasn\'t taught, modeled, or documented how to do this well. And because of our consumer society, most folks don\'t want to take the time to care. In fact, many of you did not make it to the end of this monologue.\r\nThings you wished you knew but never asked:\r\n Why does hair turn gray?\r\nAll the hairs on our head contain pigment cells that contain melanin. These cells in our hair follicles die as we age. The decrease in melanin causes hair to become more transparent colors like gray, silver, and white. Premature gray hair is hereditary. But it also has been associated with smoking and vitamin deficiency. ",1]
Love is more than emotions. Love is about mutual respect and devotion. It is sacrifice and hard work. It is commitment and service. The myth of love is easy. Infatuation and feelings are easy because your body reacts without much cognitive use. Love is the conscious and logical decision to move past the superficial intimacy and connecting on the metacognitive/spiritual dimension of humanity. It is saying that, here I am with all my flaws, failures and insecurities and your partner can forgive and embrace all of who you were and currently are. And then your partner is willing to be with you still and open themselves up just as honest and raw. This is not a crash course of six weeks. Love takes time and it is a process. Infatuation does not take time. That is why our divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a life of commitment and not knowing anything about ourselves and the potential candidate makes the union that much more difficult. Even with college, most people don't reach autonomy even by the age of 26. (These studies support why not taking care of personal development comes back in the form of a mid life crisis.) Again, emotions are easy to run to but most people invest in emotions and never learn to deal with love and this is why divorce occurs so often. Sex and emotions are not enough to sustain a relationship. Sadly, the generation before us hasn't taught, modeled, or documented how to do this well. And because of our consumer society, most folks don't want to take the time to care. In fact, many of you did not make it to the end of this monologue.Things you wished you knew but never asked: Why does hair turn gray?All the hairs on our head contain pigment cells that contain melanin. These cells in our hair follicles die as we age. The decrease in melanin causes hair to become more transparent colors like gray, silver, and white. Premature gray hair is hereditary. But it also has been associated with smoking and vitamin deficiency.