The Porcelain Bowl Volume 4 Edition 2

The porcelain bowl
Volume 4 Edition 2
What’s Love Got to Do With It?
I.Quips and Quotes
II. Catch 22
III. Things you wished you asked but never have…

Quips and Quotes
“Loves in need of love today” Stevie Wonder

Catch 22

Post sweetest day I have had some thoughts. Thoughts on how things get manipulated and get changed about love and what goes on with humanity as we perceive and engage infatuation. The point remains where do we get the idea to be pumped out about infatuation?Origins and Facts About Sweetest Day Observed the 3rd Saturday in the month of October, Sweetest Day observance originated in Cleveland in 1922. Herbert Birch Kingston, a philanthropist and candy company employee wanted to bring happiness into the lives of orphans, shut-ins and others who were forgotten. With the help of friends, he began to distribute candy and small gifts to the underprivileged.On the first Sweetest Day, movie star Ann Pennington presented 2,200 Cleveland newspaper boys with boxes of candy to express gratitude for their service to the public. Another popular movie star, Theda Bara, distributed 10,000 boxes of candy to people in Cleveland hospitals and also gave candy to all who came to watch her film in a local theater. Primarily a regional observance celebrated in the Great Lakes region and the Northeast, Sweetest Day is gradually spreading to other areas of the country. People tend to take the Sweetest Day tradition with them when they move. Ohio is the top state for Sweetest Day sales, followed by Michigan and Illinois. Texas, California and Florida are among the top 10 states in sales.
\r\nOver the years, Sweetest Day has evolved into a time to express romantic love and also to show appreciation to friends.\r\nNow, here is my thing, why has this transformed into this hallmark holiday that sometimes leaves many women feeling unworthy or unwanted. Things are never as they seem to be. Bump that! Love is more complex then how we use it. I love chicken. I love my mama. Does that mean I love them the same? The language about love is so diluted in America that we don\'t even know what we are talking about or loving about. So let’s talk about it. Is it Infatuation, Romantic Love, or Chemistry? Chemistry and Infatuation in Romantic Love and Marriage: Romantic love is blinded by infatuation or chemistry. It ends when anticipations become expectations. Chemistry fuels romantic love and infatuation with actual chemicals in our brains. Infatuation is a chemical high! Is your true love a Lust Junkie? Lust junkies are addicted to the chemistry of love. As love\'s chemicals wane, love junkies leave relationship of search of chemical lust "highs." \r\n According to Dr. Helen Fisher from Rutgers University, when you are infatuated with someone the chemical stimulant Dopamine, this is what causes you to be excited. This chemical also cranks up the production of testosterone. At this point you are also producing more norepinephrine, which is a neurotransmitter that further stimulates your sex drive and is also associated with increased memory. That is why you have the ability to recall all the intimate details, your brain is allowing you the ability to cherish such moments. However the downfall of the production of norepinephrine is that it hampers your ability to focus on other important things in your life and this is why some people never figure out how to practice balance (this mostly happens to women for reasons I have not found out yet). \r\n The effects of dopamine is that sometimes you become addicted to your significant other like they were a drug. This also means that when you begin to not get what you want, you become depressed and passive-aggressive. Serotonin, which keeps us calm and happy drops 40 percent in production when we are in that infatuation stage. This is why so many women will spend hours over analyzing what a man meant in the tone he said good-bye. The phase of romantic love lasts 6-18 months. So when the glossiness of such relationships chisel off, and you want to reconnect with people, don\'t get mad when you realize that you had burnt some bridges. When you stop getting phone calls or invites; when the balance is totally off; when you trade off friendships for this new relationship, and your friends wonder what happened to you; Love is an addition to your life, it should never be subtracting.",1]
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Over the years, Sweetest Day has evolved into a time to express romantic love and also to show appreciation to friends.Now, here is my thing, why has this transformed into this hallmark holiday that sometimes leaves many women feeling unworthy or unwanted. Things are never as they seem to be. Bump that! Love is more complex then how we use it. I love chicken. I love my mama. Does that mean I love them the same? The language about love is so diluted in America that we don't even know what we are talking about or loving about. So let’s talk about it. Is it Infatuation, Romantic Love, or Chemistry? Chemistry and Infatuation in Romantic Love and Marriage: Romantic love is blinded by infatuation or chemistry. It ends when anticipations become expectations. Chemistry fuels romantic love and infatuation with actual chemicals in our brains. Infatuation is a chemical high! Is your true love a Lust Junkie? Lust junkies are addicted to the chemistry of love. As love's chemicals wane, love junkies leave relationship of search of chemical lust "highs." According to Dr. Helen Fisher from Rutgers University, when you are infatuated with someone the chemical stimulant Dopamine, this is what causes you to be excited. This chemical also cranks up the production of testosterone. At this point you are also producing more norepinephrine, which is a neurotransmitter that further stimulates your sex drive and is also associated with increased memory. That is why you have the ability to recall all the intimate details, your brain is allowing you the ability to cherish such moments. However the downfall of the production of norepinephrine is that it hampers your ability to focus on other important things in your life and this is why some people never figure out how to practice balance (this mostly happens to women for reasons I have not found out yet). The effects of dopamine is that sometimes you become addicted to your significant other like they were a drug. This also means that when you begin to not get what you want, you become depressed and passive-aggressive. Serotonin, which keeps us calm and happy drops 40 percent in production when we are in that infatuation stage. This is why so many women will spend hours over analyzing what a man meant in the tone he said good-bye. The phase of romantic love lasts 6-18 months. So when the glossiness of such relationships chisel off, and you want to reconnect with people, don't get mad when you realize that you had burnt some bridges. When you stop getting phone calls or invites; when the balance is totally off; when you trade off friendships for this new relationship, and your friends wonder what happened to you; Love is an addition to your life, it should never be subtracting.
\r\n Love is more than emotions. Love is about mutual respect and devotion. It is sacrifice and hard work. It is commitment and service. The myth of love is easy. Infatuation and feelings are easy because your body reacts without much cognitive use. Love is the conscious and logical decision to move past the superficial intimacy and connecting on the metacognitive/spiritual dimension of humanity. It is saying that, here I am with all my flaws, failures and insecurities and your partner can forgive and embrace all of who you were and currently are. And then your partner is willing to be with you still and open themselves up just as honest and raw.\r\n This is not a crash course of six weeks. Love takes time and it is a process. Infatuation does not take time. That is why our divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a life of commitment and not knowing anything about ourselves and the potential candidate makes the union that much more difficult. Even with college, most people don\'t reach autonomy even by the age of 26. (These studies support why not taking care of personal development comes back in the form of a mid life crisis.)\r\n Again, emotions are easy to run to but most people invest in emotions and never learn to deal with love and this is why divorce occurs so often. Sex and emotions are not enough to sustain a relationship. Sadly, the generation before us hasn\'t taught, modeled, or documented how to do this well. And because of our consumer society, most folks don\'t want to take the time to care. In fact, many of you did not make it to the end of this monologue.\r\nThings you wished you knew but never asked:\r\n Do our ears continue to grow as we get older?\r\nSorry fellas but it is true. This along with noses. It is due to the cartilage growing. ah, the golden years!\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n",0]
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Love is more than emotions. Love is about mutual respect and devotion. It is sacrifice and hard work. It is commitment and service. The myth of love is easy. Infatuation and feelings are easy because your body reacts without much cognitive use. Love is the conscious and logical decision to move past the superficial intimacy and connecting on the metacognitive/spiritual dimension of humanity. It is saying that, here I am with all my flaws, failures and insecurities and your partner can forgive and embrace all of who you were and currently are. And then your partner is willing to be with you still and open themselves up just as honest and raw. This is not a crash course of six weeks. Love takes time and it is a process. Infatuation does not take time. That is why our divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a life of commitment and not knowing anything about ourselves and the potential candidate makes the union that much more difficult. Even with college, most people don't reach autonomy even by the age of 26. (These studies support why not taking care of personal development comes back in the form of a mid life crisis.) Again, emotions are easy to run to but most people invest in emotions and never learn to deal with love and this is why divorce occurs so often. Sex and emotions are not enough to sustain a relationship. Sadly, the generation before us hasn't taught, modeled, or documented how to do this well. And because of our consumer society, most folks don't want to take the time to care. In fact, many of you did not make it to the end of this monologue.Things you wished you knew but never asked: Do our ears continue to grow as we get older?Sorry fellas but it is true. This along with noses. It is due to the cartilage growing. ah, the golden years!