Gal Pal Post volume 4 edition 3

Gal Pal Post Volume 4 Edition 3
Quips and Quotes
Inner Diva Speak
Last Word


“you can tell the character of a person by the type of friends they keep…”

Inner Diva Speak

or by the kind of friends they don’t keep. Last time we talked about relationships with a significant other, but this week, it is all about the deal with people in our lives and that which is between friends. Gal pal (and mentor) Lesley Deaderick/Jenkins taught me an amazing lesson the year of 2001. Besides offering me her wonderful friendship, she gave the greater gift, her wisdom. Something that she had learned in her journey in life and shared this with me.When someone is in your life for a REASON it could be for a host of explanations; it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. On the other hand, that someone may be there to test you or to bless you. If they are there to test you then this may lead to you either growing or regressing. But in this you still have a choice.Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. On the other hand, these persons may bring you nothing but hardship and pain. They may deceive you or manipulate you. It is then your decision to rise about the occasion and figure out the role they played in your life.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. A nperson at this level is music for your soul. These people are the iron that sharpens iron. They are the people/friends/mentors inyour life that add to your life, they do not take it away from it. Life is not about what you get, it is about what you give. So when you are sowing relationships of any kind, be mindful that you are putting into them more than what you expect to get out. When you do good by others, I promise not only will good find you, but you will feel good. And once you retrain your minds to rise above situations and get over the fact that life is not fair and things will not always work out in your favor, your hope should be that you learn from every test. After all, life is a test and a trust. Who we are under persecution of the pressures of life is what sifts and refines us to reveal who we really are. And there you will find your life purpose.

Last Word:
In honor of the national holiday about giving thanks, I had to discuss it. If you do not appreciate the people who love you and care about you and express this in manner that they know you do appreciate them then you will probably wear out your welcome and they may move on to another person or focus their energy on folks whom share mutual love and respect for said persons. If you do not appreciate what you have then why do you feel that you deserve more? In life we really don’t deserve anything. Service should be our rent for merely living. Each day we breathe is one to be thankful for. If you got up to read this email, you should be thankful that you can see. Etc.
Be a good steward of what you have (possessions, gifts, talents, but more importantly relationships/friendships). I am very thankful for every one of you. I apologize if for any reason that\r\nyou do not feel as if I demonstrate this in a way that blesses you. I hope that all of you realize that you have added to my life, and for\r\nthat very fact, I am thankful.

Keep it classy Ladies!

PS: for those of you know who knew our vice president of student affairs, Bill Hall passed away 11-27 at his residence surrounded by family.He was the greatest man I ever knew and has played a huge role in helping me be the person that I am today. I know that parts of his legacy lives on in me and in the hearts of others because he loved and invested in our lives.