White Boy Email 25th Edition

White Boy Email 25th Edition
The Points to a Man’s Make up
(Featuring Guest Writer on Sex Ed 101 TJ “the man” Smith”)
I. Quote of the Week
II. Ebonics Lesson of the Week
III. Catch 22
IV. Mama’s Korner
V. Guest White Boy Writer

Quote of the Week:
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Ebonics Lesson if the Week:
Deep-six (deep-6) when you do this it means you get rid of it. Example: I am bout to deep-six dis food in the fridge yo’, it is pass foul and its growin sh*t…

Catch 22:

10 points about of a man’s make-up

this is not in paragraph form this week, I just want you to check this out and let it be a sorta checklist for your souls (Source O. Mitchell):
Character
Moral principle
Integrity
Self-discipline
Determination
Responsibility
Dependability
Personality
Some men are passive and don’t talk a lot, a.k.a introverts, and that is ok
Some men are extroverts, that is ok too
Men are by design more reserved, so both men and women need to appreciate each others personality
Leadership
All men have leadership traits and tendencies
American society in some ways have stolen positive masculine traits from men
Productivity (to live by the sweat of his brow)
Courage (don’t associate this with size and possessing courage does not dismiss fear) having courage means also having vision
Mind (men are usually tempted the most through sight, so watch what you watch fellas J)
Heart (the emotional center of man)
Sexuality (men naturally have a stronger sex-drive than women, but that again is designed a complimentary thing. How much more population if the persons carrying babies were all nymphomaniacs J?) Sex is only part of the make up of man, but somehow society focuses on this because the jist is that men cannot control this, because I believe men are not animalistic.
Body (Men experience stress differently then women. And this is suggested why they live shorter lives than women.)
Peter Pan (Fun Loving Boy) inside every man is a boy, the boy who is just wanting to have a good time, and that is needed to balanced the man who is pressed on from every direction to pose a certain way under the threads of society, do not lose the child inside, because there will be times in this life you will need it and times that you have to go back and hope to repair him.

Family Corner
I called my sister last weekend after I finished leading a retreat and she told me that she was playing in a basketball game. I was like what? My sister played ball in high school and she was fierce, but this is before my time. So bout 22 years ago she hit the courts in college for the last time. I proceeded to give her a pep talk. Telling her to smack balls in the women’s faces and put her hands and arms in front of them. Talking to her later that day, my sister said she dominated the game, scoring 7 baskets in the first 12-minute game!! I was so proud. My sister went to town. The sister who is nice and not competitive finally grew a pair to handle hers. So the lesson in that is that sometimes u are given the opportunity to shine…take it!! Sometimes there is nothing wrong with flexing some of your muscles (powers)!!! Here was this 44-year-old woman getting down. Before Aaliyah my mama was screaming that “age ain’t nothing but a number” and this is so true in more than just if you are older. Do not allow people look down on you because you are young, or that you are a white boy. Anything and everything is possible.

NOW what many of you have been waiting for:
SEX ed 101 brought to you by TJ Smith, a white boy and his voice of experience:

Patty asked me to write something for Sex Ed 101. Though I can talk about sex forever, I don’t really know what to write when not actually in a conversation, so I just wrote a few things I’ve come across in the past few days. So for those of you who stopped snickering about me coming across many things in order to talk about sex Ed… bear with me:

“Probably I would be better off if I didn't date E women. With me it's always been Laurie, Jenni, Candy, Maggie, Debbi, Stacey -- all my life, just me and the cheerleading squad. You should find yourself a nice A girl, Keeno always tells me. I can see myself dating a Sasha. There are plenty of girls out there whose names don't even end in vowels -- Megan, Beth, Doris, you name it. I bet I've even slept with a few. A friend of mine in college dated a Sam, and he seemed perfectly happy. One thing's for sure: I should know by now that dating an E girl spells trouble. But then again, I have never been the kind of person who learns lessons.”
-- The Frog King by Adam Davies

Does this relate to anybody else other than myself? Just take a minute to think bank on all the girls, or in some cases the few girls that you have been with throughout your life. Personally, I counted way too many for my liking. And you know what is even more true? The fact that they don’t really seem to be any good. Yes, I will agree, many of those lovely E girls are cute and let you get in their pants, which is not what I’m really complaining about. It’s the fact that there’s always this “bitch card” that seems to hang like a dark cloud over that E. Way too many… way too many…

Another thing I noticed was on top of those E girls, the abundance of girls’ names that start with A and K that I’ve dealt with. Many of them at OSU. First off, I just want to give these parents a creativity award because I had no idea that there were no other letters in the alphabet to use for a girl’s name. But if there are other girls out there, why do I just get to deal with the 47 AK’s out there? Do I have a sign on my back? “If you’re name isn’t …” well I better not use names, it’s a small world after all.

I was having this conversation, about the girls I’ve dated, with my mom this weekend. I can admit, mom and I are tight. But not tight enough that we have storytelling about how I sacked another girl. So even though we were still talking about dating, she somehow called me a slut. Isn’t that what dating is, mom? I mean seriously, if you know how many girls I’ve slept with… then yes you could call me a slut. Or have I become a dating slut as well…?


All I have to say about what TJ said was that it was from his heart and I love all that he share because of that. The time it takes to be reflective and contemplative about what you have learned is a mark of great character. Go TJ!!!


Have a great week
~Always the DIVA

Patty Jr